On October 29, 2024, RWAMREC (Rwanda Men’s Resource Center), in collaboration with the Rwandan government, celebrated the International Day of Care and Support. This global observance emphasizes the vital role of care in strengthening communities and families, aligning perfectly with this year's theme, which focuses on fostering positive relationships and support systems.
In Rwanda, RWAMREC has been at the forefront of promoting gender equality and transforming societal norms through its Bandebereho program. This initiative engages men in discussions about care and support within couples, highlighting the importance of shared responsibilities in nurturing relationships. The program aims to challenge traditional masculinity, encouraging men to adopt a more compassionate and supportive role in their families.
One powerful testimony from a 25-year-old woman illustrates the transformative impact of the Bandebereho program:
“Before joining Bandebereho, I faced significant challenges at home, feeling neglected and unsupported. However, after my husband participated in the program, he began to understand the importance of care and support. Through the Bandebereho sessions, he learned that being a ‘serious man’ does not equate to being controlling or violent. He embraced a new perspective on respect and partnership, which significantly improved our relationship. Today, I am grateful for the changes in our household dynamics: my husband now shares chores, attends antenatal appointments with me, and shows genuine care and support. (Musanze District, Musanze Sector)
This transformation exemplifies the core of the International Day of Care and Support. By fostering an environment of mutual respect and cooperation, couples can cultivate healthier relationships that contribute to the well-being of the entire family.
Another participant, who is a husband and father, shared his deeply transformative story of change:
“Before engaging with Bandebereho, I felt overwhelmed by the pressures of providing for my family and often struggled to connect with my partner. Through the program, I discovered the value of emotional support and communication. I learned to express my feelings and listen actively, which helped me foster a deeper bond with my partner. Now, I participate in family decisions and chores, creating a more harmonious and supportive home environment. My partner has expressed her appreciation for my newfound involvement, stating that it has strengthened our partnership.” (Muko Sector, Musanze District)
The Bandebereho program is a testament to the potential of Gender-Transformative Approaches. It empowers men to become allies in promoting care and support, reinforcing the idea that positive masculinity is about nurturing and supporting loved ones in everyday life.
As we celebrate this important day, let us remember that care and support in relationships are foundational to building a harmonious society. The journey towards equality and mutual respect begins at home, with each playing a crucial role in fostering an environment of love and support.
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