The story is for a household composed of spouses and 3 children living in Musambira Sector of Kamonyi district in the Southern province. It highlights a family characterised by GBV and how they went through a journey of transformation which deeply and positively impacted on the household’s lives due to interventions from Care and RWAMREC. The testimony was expressed during the launch of the 16 Days of Activism to end violence against Women and Girls.
Mr. Munyantore Claudien, in his emotional voice attempts to summarise his family life in the following words: “I was an irresponsible man who was not caring about his family. I use to be violent against my wife and children. There was no peace in my house and living conditions were critically worse. My family had no access to our fortune. I was spending my money as i want, running behind prostitutes and spending my entire days in the bars. Always, when i was asked to provide money to my wife, this resulted into fight and violence. Generally, she was victim of physical and emotional violence all the time.
My wife was not my mandatory in terms of Bank transactions and she could not claim to access to this right for the purpose of avoiding any clash between us. She got involved in our financial transactions only when i was admitted in the hospital.
After a long period of harmful relationship, my wife decided to leave me. I remained with sorrow and unable to manage the family. After two years, i made my first step to ask for forgiveness to my wife but it was not easy at all to convince her to come back. “Violence has pushed me to leave my family as i could not abide with” added Murebwayire Jacqueline, the wife of Munyantore Claudien.
After joining VSL teams organised by Care International, RWAMREC came to look for households living with GBV. This was an opportunity for us to be given training on GBV and laws related to GBV. It was a great opportunity for us to learn and from there started our journey of transformation.
Our life changed in all aspects from worse to better. Now, we have cattle, our home is electrified. Our relationships have improved and currently i can smile together with my wife. I thank RWAMREC for changing our life. I urge all men to give their contribution in fighting and ending all forms of violence against women and girls. In the same way, Jacqueline expressed thanks to the Government of Rwanda and the President Kagame for their commitment to end violence against women and girls.